TRUE Sincere Friends never take advantage of their friend's kindness. Or leave them in the dark once they found other better friends.
In life, being too materialistic makes a person lose their focus and living the simplicity of life. Most unfortunately you'll become ignorant.
Happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in the worth and choice.
Now this is a story i want everyone to know.
We've known this guy since early 2007 when little nicole was still in my tummy. He watched all my four kids grow. Until one day an incident happen and changed everything in our friendship. Throughout the years we've known him, he had a girlfriend that mistreated him and always quarreled in front of us whenever we all went out together. He ended the relationship with her and now he's found another girl that he really like a lot. Over the years we've known him and his current girlfriend, without fail, we will send him Christmas and Chinese New Year greeting cards. We never get any in return. Neither did we get invited to his home or girlfriend's place for Christmas and CNY celebrations. Guess my kids will never know what CNY celebrations is all about. Living in a multi society here in Singapore, the kids don't get to experience the culture and celebrate CNY. Doing things like going visiting to our chinese friend's home, giving them hongbaos and oranges. We do that when our neighbour invite my family to their home.
Once again; it's once a year celebration and its the effort that one makes; that's important. Yet none did. Till today we don't know much about his parents OR her parents and family. Guess he's too busy with his handphone or should I say; his social media life that he didn't make an effort to return the festive cards or do such things in return. We treated him as part of our family but we feel like he didn't treat us the same way. We even invited him to my MIL's home to come over to eat JR's mum's cooking. And both of them ate like there's no tomorrow. There was an incident of me serving two plates of watermelon for each couple. I'm a giving person when it comes to sharing food (and my parents taught me to think of others before oneself) but mind your manners girl! Greedy isn't the way a lady behaves at someone's home. Boy thunder stays over at our house almost every single night and most times his girlfriend comes along, watch tv, chat, eat , stay till late hours in the morning! And the morning after most of the time, I'll make an effort to make breakfast for them and sometimes buy macs or kaya toast from kopitiam. Treated them like royalty, provide them with comfortable bed, change new sheets/pillow cases/ blankets/towel/toiletries everytime they sleep over literally like their own home. And when she have period cramps i made sure she's ok and was there for her. And the thanks my husband and i get?! A couple who make use of my family kindness and afterwards find a way to drift apart.
Well at least they know our family but over the years, BT and his girlfriend can't be bothered to make an effort to introduce his family to us. Maybe because he's staying with his parents and his excuse was that his house were messy. Gosh. I remember when i was young, I invited all my friends to my parents home. And no excuses of such. Its a joy inviting our friends over to our humble home. Till today we're still the same. We teach our kids to respect our elders and teach them what's wrong and right. And we don't take our friends kindness or take them for a ride. Well; the ride ends here for a friend that we've known for years.
It's sad to know that a friend of ours whom we treat as part of our family took advantage of our kindness. We fed him, took care of him & girlfriend, invited him & girlfriend to our humble home, numerous stayover in our house countless times & hotels staycation overnight in our hotel room. Although it was a little crowded and noisy with his snoring, we didn't mind at all. We still respect our friends but what the heck is wrong with them?! Invited him to our wedding anniversary and numerous birthdays / Christmas parties. I feel hurt and worst of all; he and his girlfriend left without saying goodbye. If you ask me; it's totally rude. My kids looked up to him as a kor kor/uncle and I guess he is just blinded by love with his current soon-to-be married girlfriend. He's willing to do anything for her including ditching friends like my family. Thinking back, his ex-girlfriend ShanShan is far better than her! Seriously better and converse well with us.
If he really admit his mistake and not blaming me for unfollowing him on social media instead, things would have been good. Being PETTY with things like these is just a pathetic excuse to ditch your good friends. I unfollwed him on Instagram coz firstly, i got the right to do so, it's not personal and IT IS my personal account. I do not need a reason to explain why I unfollowed. Once again, it's my personal account. Furthermore what kind of friend would check on all their friends why that person unfollowed them and get even with me. I do not tolerate people who are being petty and immature. It's not the end of the world if you lose a few followers. Boohoo; don't be a baby.
In fact, I wanted him to realize something was wrong; I had the courtesy to say "bye, see 'ya guys" by sms on that night. And he responded "we'll meet up for crab dinner soon". And pretended nothing happened and that he had left us. Don't tell me that he didn't realize it was wrongful of him to do so! The Boy Thunder that we knew (before he knew this 2nd girlfriend) was not like that. He is more polite and kind but he's changed! When asked why he did it, his excuse were that, he didn't want to be seen with his/our ex-colleagues, Andre and Shaun from another radio station. The minute he and his girlfriend waited by the side for us coz we were taking pictures with our ex- DJ colleagues and next moment; they were gone!! Why does he/she have to behave that way? We normally hang out for supper together but this time; he's shown his true colors. His true self. Or is it always been her intentions? Why did they ask my family to go their way instead coz we were already heading towards another exit door. We then went their way and later, they both ditched us, especially my kids. I don't think my kids deserve that kind of treatment or behaviour. And since all the immature behavior from him & girlfriend are all unnecessary; I feel that there's a line we need to draw before it gets worst. Life is full of dramas. Do NOT need more of that. If he does apologies, its not me that he needs to say sorry to; its my kids that wondered why kor kor Boy Thunder & fiancé left them and it's totally rude and uncalled for... just because they claim that they don't want to hang out or be seen with ex-dj's work friends, doesn't mean have to be rude. You know what, forget it. I forgive him. Not her, she like to copy others and she's got some manners to learn and respect others in order to gain respect.
Thinking back; he invited my husband and I to their wedding and said, "hey come to my wedding, we'll get extra chairs for your 4 kids but they can sit at another table at the end of the room". And they hate the idea of inviting the other halves (plus+ one nonsense is just being selfish. Couples are invited together especially at wedding not seperate them!) They want my 4 kids to sit at the far end of the room away from my husband and I. And they want to "earn" back their money (expenses paid for their wedding). How LOW can they go? And how many times does these two clowns wanna have wedding receptions and on seperate days Coz they obviously want to "make back" or "earn" back their expenses. And not inviting us as a family; no common sense if you were to ask me.
She probably got no money everytime we all go out for dinner, she can't be bothered to fork out money. Know how to eat but don't know how to initiate.
BT, since that woman of yours BOTHER to read this everytime to check on me, Thanks for reading! Spent so much time; effort; money on them dining out and treating them like family and my hubby taught him everything about radio; a mentor; got him a job into another radio station..yet this is the thanks we get. Good riddence, they're out of our lives coz someone like his girlfriend/fiancé, do NOT deserve respect from us. He's always proud claiming that he's good at "pretending" towards people around him. Treating his friends like puppet. Bravo. Always want as many free stuff/sponsors from people. Smile in front of you but talks bad about you behind your back.
Respect others before calling other people names. Or at least get a dictionary. Calling Me a "whore" is like calling herself one. Girl, Look at yourself in the mirror. You're no better yourself if you behave like that calling other people names!
People need to learn that their actions do effect other people. So be careful what you say and do, it's not always just about you!..
Not controlling one's life but don't behave like a child. Be tactful.
The moral of the story is not to take your friend's kindness for granted. True Friendship is hard to find. Most are just plastic from the outside and not sincere from the inside. Animals behave better than "OBSESSED" people who behave like animals. I really can't be bothered with hypocrites. Move on dude!! It's REALLY PATHETIC.
Immature people always want to win an argument, even at the end of a relationship. Mature people understand that it's always better to lose an argument and win a relationship.
Once again stop being obsessed about reading my blog. I never gave you a reason to hate me. You're just creating your own little drama of pure insecurity.
A real woman doesn't have to throw dirt on another female's name to feel more secure about herself.
